Conscious Communication is a set of skills that enable you to express yourself honestly without blame, and listen to understand another person without judgment. These relationship tools are especially useful when one or both of you have an emotional charge. When you argue over what happened and who is to blame, you waste your energy and feed the opposition between you. Conscious Communication Skills interrupt your habit of competing with each other to see who is right. They help you to maintain your connection when there is conflict, and discuss your feelings and needs constructively. When you let go of your story and stop defending your point of view, you can recognize what each one of you is feeling and needing right now. This allows room for understanding, and enables you to explore solutions together that could meet both of your needs.